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How to Pick Mother-of-the-Bride and Groom Dresses

Your top mom dress shopping questions–answered!



Ask anyone who’s gone through it before and they’ll tell you that quite a few questions will come up when shopping for mother-of-the-bride dresses and mother-of-the-groom dresses. But we’re here to tell you that the dress shopping process doesn’t have to be hard or stressful. Armed with a couple basic guidelines, you’ll be on your way to finding the perfect dress for mom. From whether the moms need to buy matching dresses to color options and when to buy, here are the answers to your most pressing questions.



Q. When should the mother-of-the-bride (MOB) and mother-of-the-groom (MOG) purchase their dresses?

Your moms can start shopping for MOB dresses and shopping for MOG dresses as soon as you decide on the season, ceremony and reception venue, and level of formality of the wedding. Those are easily the top factors to dictate the dress style for mom, your bridal party, as well as you and your fiance. For example, if it’s a casual wedding in the fall, your moms can opt for slightly shorter hemlines and flowy fabrics. On the other hand, if it’s a church wedding followed by a traditional sit-down dinner at a downtown venue, she’ll want to look for features that will play up the venue and be in keeping with the formal setting (like beading, capelets, and formal silhouettes). Start by browsing dresses for your moms online and then go from there. (PS If you’re looking for a place to start shopping, we suggest you check out our latest Kleinfeld Bridal Party dresses for mom right here!)


Q. Are there rules for picking Mother-of-the-Bride dress colors?

When it comes to color rules around picking MOB dresses, you really only have a couple tried-and-true guidelines to follow: steer clear of white dresses (or whatever color the bride plans to wear) and avoid overly flashy colors like bright red or fuchsia. Of course there are always exceptions to the rules around how to pick MOB dresses and dress colors. If the couple wants everyone in the bridal party to wear bright red or flashy sequins, then by all means go for it. But as a general rule of thumb, the mother-of-the-bride and mother-of-the-groom will want to either look for soft muted colors like champagne or gold or formal shades of navy, burgundy, dark green or black.


Q. Should the MOB & MOG Dresses Match?

Not necessarily! While it is totally acceptable for the mother-of-the-bride and mother-of-the-groom dresses to match or coordinate, it’s not mandatory. For a stylish alternative to the perfectly matched look, more and more couples are allowing their mothers’ to simply choose a mob or mog dress that coordinates with the formality and style of the wedding.


Q. How much say does the bride have in MOB dress? MOG dress?

Generally speaking, before shopping, you’ll want to consult the couple first on color and style. For example, if her bridal party is going to be dressed in long, flowy coral bridesmaid dresses for an outdoor wedding, then she might not want you to wear anything too formal with a lot of sequins or sparkle. The same goes for picking MOG dresses. You’ll want to start your search with an understanding of what the rest of the bridal party is going to look like so that you end up with something that coordinates (ie, looks great in photos). All that said, it’s important that what you end up with is something that makes you look and feel confident and beautiful!